Parents Coaching Is More Important Than Children's Coaching: Vikas Divyakirti On Students Suicide Cases

At the Ideas of India Summit, Dr. Vikas Divyakirti said, "The appetite for money, hunger and the need of a human, depends on the personality of that specific person.''

Parents coaching is more important than children's coaching, says Dr. Divyakirti.

Dr. Vikas Divyakirti at ABP Network's Ideas of India Summit 2023 said that he guides students in a direction while what the future holds is due to their hard work.

"I don't make the future of students. It's the students who work hard coupled with some luck, end up being an IAS officer. I just help in enabling them to achieve their dreams," Dr. Vikas Divyakirti said.

In conversation with ABP Network's Chayan Rastogi, Vikas Divyakirti spoke on pressure on students, parental training and his teaching style.

Addressing the issues of suicide cases in Kota, Dr. Vikas Divyakirti said: ''Suicide is not suicide, it's a murder. It is a murder by society and society always looks for an agent to commit the murder. This agent is mostly parents in the case of our society. Parents should understand that they can't put societal pressure and saddle their children with stress."

"They have to understand if they thrust that pressure on their child they are not being good parents. Parents need training." Dr. Divyakirti added.

Focusing on Parental coaching, He said: ''Parents coaching should begin from the day they become parents. Parents coaching is more important than children's coaching."

Talking about his most satisfying moments, He said, ''There was a girl who was raped and she came to me and told me that she was raped, and she can talk about this to anyone, but not her parents. The girl showed strong intent to become an IPS someday, and ensure that no other girl around her faces such a gruesome act. Finally, after three years of hard work, she became an IPS, and that was one of the most satisfying moments of my life."

Asked why do you teach English batch in Hindi, Dr. Divyakirti said, "English is the medium of writing for them, English as a language is only a language of written communication to them, while the language of speaking, jokes, and humour is mostly Hindi."

"When conducting mock IAS interviews, there is often a presumption that individuals with an English Honors background are more intelligent, but this has been proven wrong on occasion. If someone comes with Hindi or Urdu background, it takes them 10 minutes to prove their worthiness." Divyakirti added.

He said that Intelligence doesn't come through a specific language, it can come through any language.

How effective is mugging-up in UPSC preparations?

This is what Divyakirti said in response: "There are a lot of points in UPSC preparations where you need to mug things up, however, pointers in the UPSC syllabus are limited to only 10-15%. For the rest of the areas, you must build an understanding of things."

How much money does one need to earn to say that money doesn't matter?

In response, Divyakirti said: "A monk is a person who knows he can win any battle in any contest. Yet he doesn’t participate in a contest because he knows that even winning the contest will give him nothing. In a rat race, it's always a rat that wins. The appetite for money, hunger and the need of a human, depends on the personality of that specific person. I don't generally work for money, that's not my motivation. However, being successful, whatever I do, does fetch me money now. I can happily feed my family for a lifetime. If anybody says that money is not needed, it is an immature statement."

I miss my girlfriend a lot while studying, what should I do?

In response to the humourous question, He said: "Go meet her, if you don't meet then you will miss her more. Once you meet, you will be able to concentrate on your studies. Meet 10-20 times, then you will meet fewer and this is for both girls and boys."

What's more dangerous: overconfidence or underconfidence?

In response, He said: "Overconfident people in powerful positions are certainly dangerous. However, being underconfident is also not a very good thing." 

Concluding the session, Divyakirti further underlined, "Students should understand that they are humans, not robots. life is not as difficult as we make it out to be. Learn from life, learn from your friends. Speak to your friends. Becoming IAS should be a part of your life, it should not become your entire life. Education is not the preparation for life, it is life. One should always be open to learning new things throughout their lives. Learning helps you evolve every single day as a better being."