Just Married? Start Your Journey Right With These 7 Money Conversations
Money is an important factor and discussing finances early on can help build mutual trust and understanding, and help the couple align their financial journey as a team
Marriage is a union of not just hearts but also financial interests. With the wedding season upon us, many newlyweds would be starting a new chapter in their lives. Money is an important factor and discussing finances early on can help build mutual trust and understanding, and help the couple align their financial journey as a team. To help you start right, here is a checklist of financial topics to discuss with your partner as you both navigate this journey together.
1. Share financial history and perspective
Share your financial backgrounds, including any debts and assets, for transparency. Discuss your money values and habits - spending preferences, saving goals, and any financial baggage, such as unsettled debts. Since your values and past experiences shape how you'll manage finances together, communicating openly is crucial for building trust and alignment.
2. Set financial goals
Discuss your individual financial goals. Short-term goals might include taking a vacation or buying a car, while long-term goals could cover starting a family, saving for children's education, or planning for retirement. Also, include your personal goals in the broader financial plan. Set timelines and assign a priority to these goals so you are both aligned on achieving them.
3. Create a balanced budget
Managing money efficiently calls for a budget. Create a monthly budget that accounts for shared and personal expenses. While shared expenses may be easier to navigate, account for personal expenses in a way that allows both partners to spend without guilt within a mutually agreed-upon limit. Also, discuss how you plan to monitor spending to maintain accountability and trust.
4. Plan savings and building an emergency fund
Decide how to save together and separately. Will you have joint accounts, individual accounts, or a separate account for shared expenses? Agree on the amount to set aside for an emergency fund and how you'll contribute. Also, consider insurance and other financial support to strengthen your foundation.
5. Handling of debts and repayments
Be open about any debts you each have before marriage, whether it's student loans, credit card debt, or other liabilities. Work together to create a repayment plan that doesn't put too much strain on one person. Discuss how you'll handle future debt, like car or home loans, and agree on when it's appropriate to take on new debt. This will help you both stay on the same page financially.
6. Plan investments
Share your views on investing, including the options you prefer, like stocks, real estate, and mutual funds, and your risk tolerances. It is crucial to decide how investments will be divided. What are the investments you want to hold jointly? Does each partner wish to maintain their portfolio? Since investments are an important part of wealth building, it is important to align them with your shared financial vision.
7. Divide financial responsibilities
Another aspect of effective financial management as a couple involves dividing financial tasks. Identify which tasks need to be done and then divide them between the two of you. These tasks could include creating a budget, paying bills, and tracking investments among others. To track your progress towards your financial goals and keep both partners informed about the family's financial situation, it can be beneficial to have a monthly or quarterly review of your spending, budget, and investments. For a balanced and trustworthy relationship, both partners must participate in making major financial decisions.
Discussing money can sometimes lead to uncomfortable or awkward conversations, but they must be had. Communicating openly and honestly with your spouse about money matters is the key to fostering a healthy, trust-filled relationship.
The author is the senior manager, Communications at BankBazaar.com. This article has been published as part of a special arrangement with BankBazaar.